March 2015 archive

Who should say “I Do” to paying for the Wedding?

By Krysten Lewis

One major problem couples encounter when budgeting a wedding is figuring out which side is responsible for paying for which parts of the event. Traditionally, there are rules as to what the bride’s family is responsible for and what the groom’s family is responsible for. For example:

Bride’s family

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  • Bride’s dress
  • Flowers for the ceremony and church
  • Bouquets for bridesmaids
  • Photography and video
  • Reception (Food and Decor)
  • Band/DJ
  • Stationery (invitations, announcements, programs)
  • Transportation

Groom’s family

  • Marriage license
  • Officiant fee
  • Groom’s tux
  • Bride’s Bouquet, Boutonnieres for the men, and Corsages for mothers and grandmothers
  • The Honeymoon
  • Rehearsal dinner

With that being said, some couples are going for a more modern approach, either paying for the wedding on their own (assuming they have the means to fund it) or allowing family members to contribute what they would like to the wedding. A good strategy for having this talk with the respective families is to simply piece out the wedding budget and to let the individual parties choose which aspects they feel they would best be able to cover. Rather than take the approach of assigning the traditional wedding aspects to the bride and grooms’ families, respectively, instead sit and figure out how much each part of the wedding will cost and then allow the family members to decide on what they want to pay for. By doing so, it can give the two sides a chance to communicate and to go into the wedding without the feeling that one side has had to foot an unfair amount of the bill.